How to: The perfect blowjob

It took a while because of my exams, homework and the research I had to do for this. But after all here it finally is: The blowjobtopic. You could already learn how to eat pussy and that caused men and women to ask for blowjob lessons. So here you go.

Blowjob (fellatio): 
“stimulating of the penis with your mouth. Other words: sucking dick or oral sex. Blowjobs are for many men very exciting. By giving a blowjob a men can reach an orgasm.” (Sense, 2011).


Not every woman likes to give blowjobs and maybe surprising not every men as well. I, myself can totally enjoy the feeling of having a man defenceless in my hands (actually mouth). I don’t like to brag, but until now I never had complains so next to the extensive research I’ve done many tips come from my own experience.
My research consisted asking man in my surroundings and online what they liked most, checking different websites (including gay sites) and even experiences from a prostitute. Of course not every man wants the same, just like not every girl wants to get her pussy eaten the same. It is important to have an honest and open communication about this. In case you don’t (yet) want to talk to your partner about this make sure you pay attention to his reactions like breathing, sounds, the hardness of his penis and muscle tensions. In any case, by this a few tips and tricks.

Do’s

Start:
– If you think giving oral is a bit nasty try doing it in the shower.
– Make sure both of you sit or lie comfortable. Giving him a BJ while he is standing can be fun, but makes him less relaxed and your knees will get fucked up when you sit to long on them.
– make sure you are in the mood for it and enjoy it yourself. Man definitely get turned on when they see you enjoy it. They even told me the rather don’t get suck than get sucked by a girl who actually doesn’t want to do it.
– Look at what you’ve got in your hands. Is he circumcised or not, totally smooth or with lots of veins and rough spots? In this last case you can be a bit more rough with him.
– Men are visual creatures, so make him see what you’re doing. Look into his eyes while you take him more deep in your mouth.
– Start slowly and don’t forget your hands. Play a bit with him by using your tongue. Lick over his whole penis or make little hickeys in different places. Takes his acorn(dickhead) in your mouth and let him slip in and out a few times, in this way you can take him deeper every time and you can make him and your lips more wet. This is very important, compare it to yourself, you don’t want you pussy to get licked with a tongue made of sandpaper right? Hold him firmly in you hand, but don’t squeeze to hard. Actually it’s about variety in the beginning. take him totally out your mouth and in again. take him out and focus on his acorn a bit before you take him in again. This makes that he won’t come to fast and makes him more sensitive.

Middle: 
– If you are done playing and he is totally hard you can start with a calm rhythm , this makes you last longer and doesn’t over stimulate him. Use your hand at the root of his penis and move your hand in the same rhythm. Try to breathe calmly trough your nose or keep your breath and take breathing pauses.
– Examples of Sensitive spots are his acorn border, pee hole and his frenulum. You can stimulate these by licking like you want to lick it off.
Don’t forget about his balls. You can massage these softly or suck on them. Be careful with them because they are really sensitive!
– In case you get tired of your jaws start aching take a rest and keep jerking him off. Make sure its wet enough so it wont get rough. You could use lubrication in this case.

End:
– The more close to his climax the higher your rhythm should be and don’t play/tease any more.
– SOME men like it if you stimulate there perineum or prostate, this can be done in different ways. By massaging his perineum, rubbing his sphincter or by putting your finger in his ass and stimulate his prostate. Specially when he is close to his orgasm this can be that little extra that pushes him over the edge.
– Make him come where ever you want. If you don’t want him to come in your mouth make him come on your boobs or belly, or make him come on his own. You can swallow his cum but talk about this before to devoid uncomfortable situations.
– If you make him come in your mouth, stop moving or move really slow untill he really is finished.

Extra tips:

– Learn from porn and practise on fruits.
– Don’t give a shit about how you look or sound. You don’t have to win a beauty contest while sucking his dick! And most men like to hear you slurping his dick.
– Does his sperm taste bad? Feed him pineapple and other fruits, don’t let him eat to much fat en don’t make him smoke to much.

Techniques

*     Basic technique
With this technique you hold the penis with you whole hand and you only take the acorn in your mouth. Let the penis slide over your lips into your mouth and pleasure him with your hand at the same time.
Move your head in that way you can keep making your lips slide over his acorn and  the edge of it. After a while you can use your tongue as well, make circulating movement and give him small licks on different places. After this you can increase your rhythm. This is a good way to discover which areas are sensitive to him and what he likes.

*     Tongue technique 
In this you mainly use your tongue. It’s the intention to lick from his balls to the top like your licking a ice-cream or lollipop and is particularly a turn-on. Once you reach his acorn, focus extra on it. Make your tongue go over his acorn and corona (lower border of the acorn, place where the acorn goes to the shaft). With this technique you can also stimulate his frenulum, succes garanteed.

* Corona technique
hereby you don’t take the penis deep into your mouth. It’s the idea to move back and fore over his acorn while you keep your lips tensed in a O-shape. It’s not a hard technique bit not that easy to keep your lips tensed and move over de corona at the same time.

* Deep technique
Also called deep throating. Take the penis totally in your mouth to the place where your uvula is. It comes down to not to gag because of his penis, in case you do gaga make sure to swallow consciously and take a few deep breaths. For deep throating it’s important to practice it a lot. Certain position can help, like leaning with your head backwards of by approaching him from his belly (facing his feet) instead of facing his face. The best is to make the natural curve of his penis follow the natural curve of your mouth and throat.

* Sucking technique
This technique is best during or just after coming. Most man don’t like sucking that much during the blowjow. But they like it when you suck his sperm after he came. Don’t suck to hard because he will be very sensitive after coming.

*     Olympic sex (make a man come more often):
The purpose of the technique is to keep the perfect cadence. You make him lie totally still. Even if he comes, don’t stop, or when he really begs you to stop, start  over really fast by sucking him gently. Many men can come up to ten times by this. They are surprised themselves but totally exhausted afterwards. Every orgasm gets more intense even until it starts aching.

Don’t’s 

– Don’t give him a BJ when you don’t want to.
Don’t have unprotected oral sex if you don’t know if he is clean or nor.
– Don’t squeeze him to hard if you give him a hand job.
– Be aware of the fact that your teeth are sharp, so make sure not to scrape his sensitive parts with them. You can fold your lips over you teeth to avoid this.
– I already said it but it’s important: Make sure it’s not to dry!
– If you are busy for a while and he is close to his climax don’t change your technique unless you want to delay his orgasm.
– If you suck, don’t suck to hard! This is sensitive, hard to keep up and restricts your movements. Try to suck hard at the same time your moving fast up-and-down.
– Not many man like biting or anal stimulation. If you are not sure your partner likes it, don’t push you finger is his ass.- Most men don’t think it’s sexy when you run of to the bathroom immediately after making him come in your mouth to spit it out or wash your mouth. Rather make him come on your body or his or keep something to drink next to the bed.
– Don’t make it a habit. It’s not special any more and gets boring. It’s more fun if he really desires it.

Risks

Just as in all forms of sex oral sex is not without risks, both for the giver and receiver. There is a small but PRESENT chance you get a STD with this. In short:
– The most common STD (in the Netherlands) is Chlamydia, You can have this both in your throat as your genitals. This means some one with throat chlamydia can infect the other genitals and the other way around. You can’t exchange this by kissing. Syphilis and Gonorrhoea can be transferred in the same way.
Herpes and HPV (humane papillomavirus) can be exchanged by oral sex.
HIV can be exchanged by blood contact, so in case you have wounds in your mouth or from period-blood from women.
Hepatites A, B and C. Transferred by licking the anus.

More about STD’s here!!
Want something more advanced, check How to: Deepthroat; swallow him whole

Just to be sure: You CAN’T get pregnant from giving blowjobs!

If you have tips or comments let me know!
P.s. March the 14th is national steak and blowjob day 😀

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